If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say...
There are so many negative things going on in the world right now, the financial crisis, countries in peril and unrest bombing, shootings, death, wars and so on. The list is endless, but just at this moment in time things do seem to be particularly bad for all. Because of this and many things it’s so easy for us to get down and so easy to become negative; to get in to a rut and think about negative things, to have negative thoughts.
So how can we begin to put a stop to our negativity so that it doesn’t affect us as badly as it could do?
The exercise for this month is to “say something nice to someone” at least 5 times a day!
It’s easy when it’s easy. In other words, if we’re with someone we love/like and we’re happy with them, it’s easy to say, “You look nice today.” If there’s someone you’re having fun with, it’s easy to say, “You’re fun to be with.” If you’re at a friend’s house for dinner, it’s easy to say, “This food is delicious”.
It’s not so easy, however, if you’re angry with someone, or if they’re angry with you. It’s not so easy to say something nice to a person who is mean, or negative. But if we don’t try to change, then nothing will change. If we don’t work on saying something nice to someone whenever we can, then negativity in our life can escalate and we can get so caught up in the negativity that we can be blinded by the positives.
A perfect example of saying something nice to someone when it ISN’T easy is if you’re angry with someone or they’re angry with you. It’s hard to look through your anger and find something good to say, but here’s how you can begin to do that. See the following examples:
There is a person who works with you in your office and she’s a very unpleasant and mean person. Find a moment to tell her that she looks nice.
If you’re feeling negative about your mother in law, take a moment to call her up and tell her that you love her.
If the man behind the counter at the grocery store is scowling and unpleasant, never the less, put on your best smile and tell him thank-you for helping you.
If your friend makes a mean comment over dinner, try to ignore it and tell them how good it is to see them.
Somebody pushes in front of you at the grocery store and you’re about to give them a piece of your mind…instead smile and comment on what a beautiful day it is and that you hope they’re having a good one.
We can all become so steeped in the negativity of life that we become blinded by the positives in it. But it’s possible, even with the meanest person, to find something kind to say. Maybe that person isn’t good with human beings, maybe they’re good with animals. Perhaps you could find time to compliment them on that. When you bring a positive attitude, a kind word, or a compliment into someone else’s’ life, you’re bring in a ray of sunshine in to both of your worlds.
You’re helping to lift their spirits as well as your own. If they don’t seem to respond, none-the-less, you’ve thrown a little good and positive energy their way and they’ll feel it. They really will.
So this month make a concerted effort to say 5 positive things to other people every day.
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